My (mostly) weekly thoughts on leadership, high performance, wellbeing and more.
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From patrolling to noticing
When your brain is wired to patrol for what might go wrong, it starts seeing danger everywhere - even in calm rooms.
Mature leadership isn’t about dulling awareness; it’s about widening it. Here’s how to shift from patrolling for threat to noticing what’s real
Your body is broadcasting – whether you mean it to or not
There’s no such thing as neutral leadership. Your nervous system is always broadcasting. A disconnect between your words and your body erodes trust. Here’s why, and what to do instead.
The problem with best practice
Best practice can be a useful yardstick, but it’s also yesterday’s answer. Stronger leaders ask what’s right for here and now.
Your calendar is your culture
If you want to know a leader’s real priorities, don’t read their strategy… look at their calendar. Your calendar is your culture
When to show your homework
Brevity builds confidence, true… but sometimes the detail is the message. The real leadership skill is knowing which one the moment calls for…
Don’t show your homework
At senior levels, over-explaining erodes confidence. Try this instead…
The courage to change your mind
Consistency builds trust. But the bravest leaders know when to change their mind — and why it builds credibility, not weakness.
Here’s to the lazy ones
“Lazy” is often seen as a flaw. But what if a little laziness is actually the secret to effective leadership?
Proud to call yourself cynical? Here’s why that might be a mistake…
People often wear cynicism like a badge of honour. But true leadership calls for healthy scepticism instead. Here’s the difference, and why it matters as you become more senior.
From eye-roll to essential leadership skill
When I first heard the phrase “holding space,” I thought it was woo-woo nonsense. Now I see it as one of the most practical disciplines a leader can have. Here’s why.
When your job is who you are
If your sense of worth lives in your title or others’ approval, you’re vulnerable. Here’s how to build an internal foundation you can carry anywhere.
We can’t go on together with suspicious minds
If, as a leader, you allow suspicion to become your default, you are not doing yourself, your team or your organisation any favours. Instead, most of the time, start with curiosity. Here’s why…
Gut instinct or false alarm?
Should leaders trust their gut? Or override it?
Your nervous system is constantly scanning for threat, connection, and meaning. It’s a powerful source of information, but not always an accurate one.
Recovery isn’t a detour: it’s the work
Forget the “snap back”. Whether you’ve had surgery or your team’s survived a brutal restructure, recovery isn’t instant. It’s slow, uneven, and human. Here’s what actually helps, and what to stop expecting from yourself and others.
Don’t drive into the lake
Leadership means knowing when to follow the plan and when to look up, reassess, and trust your own view of the road ahead.
Working with someone whose values clash with yours? Start here
You don’t need to agree on everything to build trust.
But when values diverge – deeply – it takes more than surface civility to collaborate well. Here are five things I’ve seen work.
What actually builds trust?
Being trusted as a leader takes more than good intent or credibility. Inside teams, trust is shaped by how you show up, what you prioritise, and what you are willing to say out loud, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Trusted advisor or trusted leader?
Many senior professionals - especially lawyers - take pride in being a trusted advisor. But when you step into a leadership role, the equation shifts. You’re not just valued for your judgment. You’re relied on for your presence, clarity, and ability to bring others with you.
Rest is not a reward
Most high performers think of rest as something they’ll get to after the work is done. But neuroscience shows that recovery isn’t the reward for performance; it’s the prerequisite.
When we’re under-recovered, the very parts of the brain that handle judgement, emotional regulation and perspective shut down. If you’re leading from a tired brain, you’re flying without the tools you need most.
Your presence is part of the work
Many experienced leaders want to “do the work” and stay above the politics. But once you’re at the table, presence isn’t optional. It’s part of the job and the lever for influence.