My (mostly) weekly thoughts on leadership, high performance, wellbeing and more.
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That feeling of effort means your new habit is wiring in: the four stages of learning
So you’re outside your comfort zone – what now? Understanding the four stages of learning can help you cope with the challenge and maintain your momentum. Here’s how to use the four stages of learning to make that new habit stick.
Healthy Boundaries: 5 tips to help lawyers (and other humans)
You're human; running at 110% is not sustainable. Exhaustion and burnout are serious problems in law. Setting boundaries is essential for lawyers to maintain a healthy balance in their lives. Yet succeeding in law practice can make this very challenging. Here’s 5 tips to help lawyers (and other humans) set and maintain boundaries.
Step out of your comfort zone; avoid the panic zone
Quick: you have three minutes to prepare a song to perform in front of the group! Your comfort zone is comfortable… and essential. So is challenging it. But don’t make the mistake of thinking the panic zone is where you need to be. You can be confident outside your comfort zone – it’s all about balance.
Starting small for the win
Go hard or go home! We know it’s easier for humans to make big changes by starting small, but we keep forgetting. In organisations, the impact is magnified.
Play without Productivity
If play is so good for us, smart people would spend lots of time doing it… right? Recently I’ve been revisiting Life Lessons by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler. I was reminded how central playfulness is to our wellbeing, and how often and easily we seem to put it low down on our lists.
Should you run from the “tiger”? Ask your truest voice
Humans are wired, for survival, to avoid threats and pain. And we’re wired to prioritise immediate threats over distant ones. Which makes sense. If it’s a choice between fleeing a fast approaching tiger, thereby leaving some food behind and being hungry later, or avoiding later hunger by hanging around for a nice meal as the tiger runs towards you… clearly, it’s an easy choice.
Going slow to go fast
I’ve learned, now, that slowing down can sometimes actually get you further than going fast. And sometimes quick, profound change is what’s needed. The challenge is knowing when to use which approach.
What's 2021 looking like for you?
As a leader approaching 2021, have you considered the biggest challenges you expect your people to face this year, and how you will operate and lead?
Phoning it in over the break
Having a framework can really help people make positive change in their lives and can be useful tools to have in the kit. I’m sharing with you a framework I’ve developed to guide me over the summer break.
How to escape quicksand
Today I’m sharing six practical tips that you can apply when you’re sinking at work. When it comes to escaping quicksand, slow and steady wins the race.
Mixed feelings about Hustle Culture
There are indeed moments of genuine connection and sparks of curiosity and insight on LinkedIn and other social media. Often, I am delighted to read about someone’s exciting news. I enjoy sharing things of value with people. But I rarely think to post pictures of me doing my job. Perhaps I should.
Struggling harder looks like...
When we are working hard without having the impact we want, we can respond by struggling harder. Don’t beat yourself up over responding in the “wrong” way - that will only make it worse. Stop, think clearly, and gently, slowly ease out of the mud.
The reverse job ad
Over the years I’ve been coaching, many clients have been facing decisions around making a career change. Often, they are struggling with the unknown and finding it difficult to decide what kind of role they are looking for.
Being cruel to be kind
Lately I've been thinking about "being cruel to be kind". I'm against it. Why not just be kind? That might (will) mean making decisions other people don't like, but that's very different from treating people with contempt and indifference.
A framework for meeting significant change
When faced with significant change, do you continue operating as your authentic self, or flip completely to meet the new needs? Here are my tips for expanding what is authentic and sustainable for you.
Don’t manage change; manage uncertainty
Change management has historically been about helping people, teams and organisations get through a change. The big assumption is that there’s an “other side”, when the job is done and the change is complete. I hear a lot of people talking about getting through 2020, on the assumption that somehow in 2021 things will get back to “normal”. Maybe they will. I’m not counting on it.
We can do retirement better
Traditionally, preparing for retirement has been all about finances, with the emotional, relational and psychological aspects left ignored. However, some organisations, particularly professional services firms, are now beginning to “actively prime outgoing partners for life after the firm” through coaching.
What is toxic positivity, and how to cultivate healthy positivity instead
How could positivity be toxic? It sounds like an oxymoron. Humans do better when we experience roughly 3 positive emotions for every 1 negative one. Most of us have plenty of negative emotions without needing actively to seek them out. Yet we often do cultivate them. That’s toxic negativity… what about healthy positivity? Healthy, authentic positivity allows room for the inevitable negativity we will all experience from time to time.
On gratitude and striving
Contentment comes from appreciating what I have, rather than focusing on what I don’t. Gratitude for what we have is powerfully good for us. But if that means not striving for new experiences, growth, development, achievement – and yes, material things - well, that’s a turn-off.
Are you in an “ejector seat” role?
I recently spoke with three separate people in very different roles and organisations, but each having work issues with some similar themes. Each person is finding significant challenge in their role. They are working extremely hard. Each is very highly skilled but having difficulty making an impact. And each is increasingly unhappy about it.